~ 孩子啊孩子 之 Bringing Up Compassionate Children ~

It is normal for kids to be primal and self centred as they are usually
have their own needs as their primary concern.

In fact there are lots of adults who still have not grown out of it ! LOL ;)

As they grow and develop in a loving family, it's up to thhe parents to
teach values suhc as giving, kindness and caring

When we teach these as parents we try to avoid telling kids they are bad
when they are only looking out for themselves because they are not.
Instead they just direct the kids to the behaviour you wish them to display

Several ways come to mind. We can role model the value. Kids observe
how mum and dad treat each other, how we treat our neighbours.......

Find ways to model giving and your child will learn quickly. Reinforce this
by telling them why you are doing that

- Story Books :
Find stories where kindness is value and moral of the story

- Pets :
Kids are so used to being looked after, pets allow them to
look out for someone else. Crazy Crabs, mini turtles, pot
plants are things that can instill care for something outside
themselves

- Voluteer to visit an elderly neighbour :
This is a good way to teach kids that they are not centre
of the universe all the time

- Do something special and small for their maid once a week :
It may be singing a song, or helping to make her a cup of tea,
or drawing her a picture as an appreciation for her care

throughout the week

- Movie :
That instill themes of giving, kindness is yet another way!
Provided you paused the movie after 20 minutes and talk
about some of the things in the movie

- Find opportunities to get kids to help you out :
Even if you have a maid helping you with shopping, let the
kids carry small shopping bag home after grocery shopping,
help wash the car, tidy their toys,dust out a book shelf etc.
There is great value in what may seem like a small task but it
for the whole family and not just themselves.

Tell them what a good job they have done after the task is done

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重要的是。。。。。我们要有所行动 ;)